WHEN LIFE CHANGES – 10 Tips for Handling Big Life Change with Confidence

I recently had the honour of attending the military retirement of a very close friend (almost more of a sister really).  On the day of her retirement, she had served almost 21 years in the Royal Canadian Navy.  A very respectable achievement to say the least.  I was so pleased to be able to be there at the moment when she was celebrating the end of one chapter and readying herself to take the next step; because it’s at these moments, when we’re experiencing big life changes that truly magnificent things can happen.

It’s at these junctions in our life’s journey that we have the opportunity to explore who we really are.  If we can be brave enough to let it happen.

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MY ANXIETY IS MAKING ME A TERRIBLE PARENT – am I in the wrong career?

First off, I want to make it very clear that I’m by NO means making the suggestion that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, shouldn’t be parents.  Nor am I saying that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, don’t do a great job of being parents – because that would be blatantly false.

I’m not even saying that I’m a terrible parent.  I love my children, and I think that I’m doing a good job raising them to be independent, polite, tolerant, and well-rounded individuals.

Just to brag a bit, I actually often get complimented on my children’s behavior when we are at restaurants.  Thumbs up to me.

What I’m saying is my anxiety makes me a terrible candidate for this parenting job that I’ve managed to get myself hired for.  It’s not that I don’t have the skills to do the job.  It’s just that my anxiety disorder makes my role as a parent more difficult, than if I was the same person just minus my anxious tendencies.

Wait STOP! Stay with me for a second.

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Why I’m NOT Making New Year’s Resolutions This Year + My 5 New Year’s NON-Resolutions

Happy New Year to all my readers.  Have you made your resolutions?

New Year – the time of resolutions.  A happy, hopeful time where everyone is brimming with enthusiasm for all that they’re going to conquer in this brand new year.

There’s something magical about New Year’s Day – not in reality, of course.  It’s really just another day, just the same as the one before; except it isn’t.

Like many people at this time of year, I’ve had resolutions on my mind.  To tell you the truth, I always have a pile of resolutions bouncing around in my brain.  I’ve always got a multitude of ‘self-improvement’ tasks that I’m ‘working’ on or am on the verge of implementing.

It’s exhausting.

And, frankly, this year between the chronic pain that I just can’t seem to conquer and trying to hold my life together, I just don’t have the energy for it.

So, I’ve made the decision that this year all my resolutions were going to be non-resolutions. Instead, I have a list of things that I won’t be doing in 2018. Click To Tweet
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Why the Winter Solstice is the Perfect Time for Rejuvenation + 5 Energy Restoring Strategies

Happy Winter Solstice or whichever ‘holiday’ you prefer to celebrate to mark this festive time of year :-).

I won’t go into details about what I believe or don’t believe, and where I stand on religion and the great Christmas religion vs secular debate.  I believe that spirituality is very personal and that every person has the right to express it in whichever method feeds their own soul – as long as it does no harm to other living things.

But, I am going to invite you to join me on The Longest Night, as I follow the example of the natural world and take some time to rejuvenate my soul.

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POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.

Over the course of my life, I’ve been counselled numerous times, by friends, family and mental health professionals, that I need to change the way I think.  I need to be more positive.

The advice is often couched in simple platitudes: relax, don’t worry, everything’s going to be okay; but, what they’re really saying is that I need to change my negative thoughts. Continue reading “POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.”

THE POWER OF A LIST WHEN YOU’RE OVERWHELMED

It’s probably not going to be revolutionary and life changing for me to tell you that lists can be a great way to reduce stress and anxiety.  I’m sure if I took a moment and googled it, there would be endless blog posts on the great life hack that lists are. (I’m not going to do that just at this moment because it’s not on my list 😉 ). But list can be a life saver when you’re overwhelmed.

So why am I talking about it here, today?

Because list making is another one of my recent epiphanies – and this time I’m really paying attention.

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#MeToo – A movement I can (reluctantly) join

I’m not going to lie; I didn’t want to write this post.  I hesitated for a significant amount of time, before I finally made myself sit down and write it.

There are lots of reasons why I didn’t want to write it.

Part of it was that I didn’t just want to jump on the latest bandwagon.  But then, I couldn’t stop thinking about it.  The whole point of the #MeToo movement is to start a conversation.

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