Why I’m NOT Making New Year’s Resolutions This Year + My 5 New Year’s NON-Resolutions

Happy New Year to all my readers.  Have you made your resolutions?

New Year – the time of resolutions.  A happy, hopeful time where everyone is brimming with enthusiasm for all that they’re going to conquer in this brand new year.

There’s something magical about New Year’s Day – not in reality, of course.  It’s really just another day, just the same as the one before; except it isn’t.

Like many people at this time of year, I’ve had resolutions on my mind.  To tell you the truth, I always have a pile of resolutions bouncing around in my brain.  I’ve always got a multitude of ‘self-improvement’ tasks that I’m ‘working’ on or am on the verge of implementing.

It’s exhausting.

And, frankly, this year between the chronic pain that I just can’t seem to conquer and trying to hold my life together, I just don’t have the energy for it.

So, I’ve made the decision that this year all my resolutions were going to be non-resolutions. Instead, I have a list of things that I won’t be doing in 2018. Click To Tweet
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My Christmas Wish – peace, forgiveness and maybe a diagnosis

Merry Christmas to all my readers.  I hope you are enjoying the holiday times whatever your beliefs are and whichever holidays you celebrate.  I’d like to take a moment and share my Christmas wish with you.

Leading up to Christmas, my children have been fervently hoping that they’ll lose their two front teeth.  Several of their classmates have, and my twins desperately want to be able to sing “All I want for Christmas is my Two Front Teeth.”

I also have holiday wishes, but they look a little different then my children’s Click To Tweet.

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POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.

Over the course of my life, I’ve been counselled numerous times, by friends, family and mental health professionals, that I need to change the way I think.  I need to be more positive.

The advice is often couched in simple platitudes: relax, don’t worry, everything’s going to be okay; but, what they’re really saying is that I need to change my negative thoughts. Continue reading “POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.”

Whenever I get to thinking I’m doing amazing, I find someone doing it better: A LESSON IN PERSPECTIVE.

Recently, I got out biked by a guy who was riding a cargo bike with two kids on the back.  It turned out to be a lesson in perspective.

And it got me questioning my fitness, something I pride myself on, and it got me questioning the success of my crusade to be a minimal car use family.  I mean, I’ve been focusing a lot of energy lately on getting us back out on our bikes and out of our van.  And, I was feeling pretty proud of myself.  But this guy, he had me beat.

Not only was he faster than me, when I was solo and he definitely wasn’t, but there was also no way I would’ve biked up that hill with my kids in tow – I would’ve gone around the longer, flatter way.

Was I just fooling myself?  Was it time to throw in the towel and stop pretending that I was actually accomplishing anything or had any right to give advice?

Or was it a lesson in perspective and loving yourself where you’re at? Click To Tweet
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It’s probably not going to be revolutionary and life changing for me to tell you that lists can be a great way to reduce stress and anxiety.  I’m sure if I took a moment and googled it, there would be endless blog posts on the great life hack that lists are. (I’m not going to do that just at this moment because it’s not on my list 😉 ). But list can be a life saver when you’re overwhelmed.

So why am I talking about it here, today?

Because list making is another one of my recent epiphanies – and this time I’m really paying attention.


REDUCING MY BLOGGING SCHEDULE – A lesson in PACING for chronic pain sufferers

Since I launched my blog, thisisallgoingon.com, I’ve stuck to my schedule of posting twice a week, and I’ve enjoyed it, really enjoyed it.  I have to admit I’ve even become a little obsessed with checking my daily ‘hits.’ But my body might be telling me that I need to slow down and start pacing myself.

But since then, I’ve come to the hard realization that it’s going to have to change.  I’m going to have to cut back to posting only once a week.

My health just can’t keep paying the price. Click To Tweet
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8 Positive Things I Feel Despite My Chronic Pain

It can be easy to focus only on all of the negative things when you’re in pain.  And, I have to admit that my last two chronic pain posts were pretty heavy.  I guess they reflected where I was at in the moment that I wrote them.  I have to admit I’d been seized by a particularly tenacious pain flare, and I was feeling pretty grim with a side of hopeless.

Read about the 12 Negative Things My Chronic Pain Makes Me Feel.

I’ve come out of it now, and I thought the time was right to do something a little more positive.

I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t fool anybody if I tried to pretend that having a chronic condition is all sugar and spice. But, that being said, it doesn’t mean that I can’t find some positives, if I take the time to look – the silver lining per se.

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12 Negative Things my Chronic Pain Makes Me Feel

I try to be positive in spite of my chronic pain.  I don’t want to let it drag me down too much.  But, sometimes it’s hard to see beyond the negatives.  Right now is one of those times.

I’m currently in a deep pain flare.  The pain is intense, and it’s been going on long enough that I’m struggling to remind myself that there will be an end to it; that at some point the pain will retreat enough that I can focus on getting back to my life.

I think this one is a particularly challenging one because just last week I was feeling pretty good.  Not perfect, the pain was still there, but it was mild enough to ignore.

Truth be told, I probably ended up in this severe pain flare because of that ‘good’ week; I probably didn’t get enough rest.  Okay, so I know I didn’t get enough rest, but I was having fun, and it felt so good – like I was a normal person.  But, going to the pub three times in five days was arguably a bad decision.

Despite the distress I’m in, when I sat down to write, I was still determined to write an upbeat blog post.  But after staring at a blank white screen for a while, I succumbed to the call of the ‘dark side.’

Besides, maybe always putting a positive face on things isn’t the best way to garner support from others.  Maybe, occasionally sharing the darkness might help others understand what is going on, and how they might be able to help.

The following are the negative things that my chronic pain makes me feel – not all of the time, but often enough to be a serious factor in my emotional health.

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CHRONIC PAIN – This is my pain

If you know me, whether through my internet presence or in real life, you might know that I have chronic pain.  I blog about it, and I sometimes even admit to it when I’m face to face.  But what does that really mean?  What is it that I’m talking about? Continue reading “CHRONIC PAIN – This is my pain”

WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE HAS A CHRONIC ILLNESS – 10 reasons my husband is amazing!

I won the ‘love lottery’ when I met my husband.

I’m not saying that he’s perfect.  I’m not saying that he doesn’t drive me crazy sometimes (both in good and bad ways –wink, wink).  And I’m not saying that our marriage has been all smooth sailing.

WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE HAS A CHRONIC ILLNESS - 10 reasons my husband is amazing!

What I am saying is, he’s an amazing person, and I’m so very lucky that he’s mine.

Having a chronic condition takes a lot of my attention.  In the daily struggle to keep participating in my own life, it’s easy to get narrow vision and lose sight of the things that are going on around me.  In the haze of pain and anxiety that clouds pretty much my every waking moment, it’s easy to forget that I’m not the only one suffering. Continue reading “WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE HAS A CHRONIC ILLNESS – 10 reasons my husband is amazing!”