SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE – The Secrets to Keeping a Marriage Strong

What are the secrets to a successful marriage?  Why do some couples live in wedded “bliss” and others crash and burn?

Why do some couples live in wedded “bliss” and others crash and burn? Click To Tweet

With Valentine’s Day only a few days away, for good or bad, it’s natural for our attention to start turning to love and our relationships.  And being a romantic at heart, I’m getting excited.   However, despite all the build-up and hype, I think it’s good to talk about the fact that, even though we shouldn’t need a special day to remind us to check in with our relationships, many of us find ourselves scrambling to find the perfect way to show our love on the day of love!

And if you’re married, especially if it’s been for a long time, it can be really challenging to come up with a unique and special way to express your love for your spouse.  How are you going to show your spouse how much they mean to you?

But is finding the perfect present on Valentine’s Day critical to having a successful marriage?

It certainly feels like it sometimes.

Like every other holiday, our society is amazing at pouring on the guilt.  Everywhere you turn there are messages about what you MUST do or more importantly buy to ensure that your marriage will be strong and stand the test of time.

But, I’ll let you in on a little secret: your gift doesn’t really matter.

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DOUBLE TROUBLE IN FLIGHT – 5 Tips for Flying with Twins + 3 Tips for Choosing a Flight

I was sitting in the departure lounge at the airport, waiting to fly to Ottawa to see an old friend (old in that we’ve been friends for a long time, not that she’s old – not that there’s anything wrong with being old 😉 ).  As I sat, I watched my 7 year-old twins play, and I couldn’t help thinking back to how different it was to travel with my twins when they were little.  I realized that I’d learned some lessons that might help others.

Out of that walk down memory lane came these 5 Tips for Flying with Twins, plus 3 Tips for Selecting a Flight 🙂 .

Some of the tips I learned the hard way.  Okay, I pretty much learned all of them the hard way 😉 .

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WHEN LIFE CHANGES – 10 Tips for Handling Big Life Change with Confidence

I recently had the honour of attending the military retirement of a very close friend (almost more of a sister really).  On the day of her retirement, she had served almost 21 years in the Royal Canadian Navy.  A very respectable achievement to say the least.  I was so pleased to be able to be there at the moment when she was celebrating the end of one chapter and readying herself to take the next step; because it’s at these moments, when we’re experiencing big life changes that truly magnificent things can happen.

It’s at these junctions in our life’s journey that we have the opportunity to explore who we really are.  If we can be brave enough to let it happen.

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Getting Back to Living Sugar-Free in 4 Easy Steps

Living sugar-free is a healthy choice. But, it isn’t an easy one. So what do you do when despite your best intentions you can’t stop consuming too much sugar?

You use these 4 sugar-busting strategies to get you back on track and living sugar-free.

IS IT GOING TO BE EASY?

There are two types of people: those who can resist sugar and those who can’t.

The ease with which you banish sugar from your life is going to depend on what kind of person you are.

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Sunshine Blogger Award – Sunshine on a Rainy Day

It’s winter, and in Victoria that often means rain.  Since the little bit of Christmas snow that fell melted, it’s been a pretty steady downpour of rain. And when it rains around here, it’s rare to see any sunshine.  But, not so for me 🙂 .  I’m so pleased to announce that I’ve been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by Angel Lou at Strong Heart.

As a new blogger, I feel very honoured to be recognized. Thank-you so much Angel.  Angel is an Environmental Science graduate and advocate who blogs about her daily life – sharing her insights and experiences.  Make sure you check out her blog.  It’s a fun and inspiring read with some thought provoking topics, such as this one: Religion. Does it matter when applying for a job?

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Why I’m NOT Making New Year’s Resolutions This Year + My 5 New Year’s NON-Resolutions

Happy New Year to all my readers.  Have you made your resolutions?

New Year – the time of resolutions.  A happy, hopeful time where everyone is brimming with enthusiasm for all that they’re going to conquer in this brand new year.

There’s something magical about New Year’s Day – not in reality, of course.  It’s really just another day, just the same as the one before; except it isn’t.

Like many people at this time of year, I’ve had resolutions on my mind.  To tell you the truth, I always have a pile of resolutions bouncing around in my brain.  I’ve always got a multitude of ‘self-improvement’ tasks that I’m ‘working’ on or am on the verge of implementing.

It’s exhausting.

And, frankly, this year between the chronic pain that I just can’t seem to conquer and trying to hold my life together, I just don’t have the energy for it.

So, I’ve made the decision that this year all my resolutions were going to be non-resolutions. Instead, I have a list of things that I won’t be doing in 2018. Click To Tweet
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POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.

Over the course of my life, I’ve been counselled numerous times, by friends, family and mental health professionals, that I need to change the way I think.  I need to be more positive.

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Whenever I get to thinking I’m doing amazing, I find someone doing it better: A LESSON IN PERSPECTIVE.

Recently, I got out biked by a guy who was riding a cargo bike with two kids on the back.  It turned out to be a lesson in perspective.

And it got me questioning my fitness, something I pride myself on, and it got me questioning the success of my crusade to be a minimal car use family.  I mean, I’ve been focusing a lot of energy lately on getting us back out on our bikes and out of our van.  And, I was feeling pretty proud of myself.  But this guy, he had me beat.

Not only was he faster than me, when I was solo and he definitely wasn’t, but there was also no way I would’ve biked up that hill with my kids in tow – I would’ve gone around the longer, flatter way.

Was I just fooling myself?  Was it time to throw in the towel and stop pretending that I was actually accomplishing anything or had any right to give advice?

Or was it a lesson in perspective and loving yourself where you’re at? Click To Tweet
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Was it really backpacking if it was only 2 km?

If you’ve been reading along with me, you already know that I’ve been obsessed with getting off the beaten path, out of the overcrowded campsites, and back into the serenity of the backcountry with my six-year old twins.  If you haven’t been following along, you can read about our inaugural backpacking trip here and how we prepared here.

But looking back on the adventures of the summer, it might possibly be time for a reality check. Click To Tweet

I’ve been really proud about finally getting my twins out on the trail with their backpacks on their backs and actually backpacking.

But let’s get real for a moment.  From the parking lot to the far end of Mystic Beach, where we pitched our tent, is a grand total of 2.3km (1.5 miles for those of you who don’t do metric).   Does that even count?  Or is that more like a gentle stroll around the block with the dog?

Did we actually accomplish anything noteworthy?

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REDUCING MY BLOGGING SCHEDULE – A lesson in PACING for chronic pain sufferers

Since I launched my blog, thisisallgoingon.com, I’ve stuck to my schedule of posting twice a week, and I’ve enjoyed it, really enjoyed it.  I have to admit I’ve even become a little obsessed with checking my daily ‘hits.’ But my body might be telling me that I need to slow down and start pacing myself.

But since then, I’ve come to the hard realization that it’s going to have to change.  I’m going to have to cut back to posting only once a week.

My health just can’t keep paying the price. Click To Tweet
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