I learned an interesting fact about werewolves today, and it sparked a debate in me. The duality of a werewolf’s physical existence got me thinking about the duality of personality that lives inside me, and I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that is inside of all of us; or at least those of us who present ourselves as nice people – or at least that we don’t judge. But in reality, have internal judgmental thoughts more than we’d care to admit. Are you like me and need some help taming your inner judge?
WEREWOLVES – how did we get here?
You might be wondering how I actually got thinking about werewolves. Well, we can thank my big brother for that. We were chatting about something completely unrelated to werewolves (possibly vampires, but maybe it was chess), and he told me what I think is probably a little known fact: because February is a short month, some years there isn’t a full moon, and 2018 just happens to be one of those years. Now, the really important part about this fact, isn’t the really the lack of moon, but what that lack of moon means.
Continue reading “NO FULL MOON MEANS NO WEREWOLVES – Taming Your Inner Judge”
I recently had the honour of attending the military retirement of a very close friend (almost more of a sister really). On the day of her retirement, she had served almost 21 years in the Royal Canadian Navy. A very respectable achievement to say the least. I was so pleased to be able to be there at the moment when she was celebrating the end of one chapter and readying herself to take the next step; because it’s at these moments, when we’re experiencing big life changes that truly magnificent things can happen.
It’s at these junctions in our life’s journey that we have the opportunity to explore who we really are. If we can be brave enough to let it happen.
Continue reading “WHEN LIFE CHANGES – 10 Tips for Handling Big Life Change with Confidence”
First off, I want to make it very clear that I’m by NO means making the suggestion that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, shouldn’t be parents. Nor am I saying that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, don’t do a great job of being parents – because that would be blatantly false.
I’m not even saying that I’m a terrible parent. I love my children, and I think that I’m doing a good job raising them to be independent, polite, tolerant, and well-rounded individuals.
Just to brag a bit, I actually often get complimented on my children’s behavior when we are at restaurants. Thumbs up to me.
What I’m saying is my anxiety makes me a terrible candidate for this parenting job that I’ve managed to get myself hired for. It’s not that I don’t have the skills to do the job. It’s just that my anxiety disorder makes my role as a parent more difficult, than if I was the same person just minus my anxious tendencies.
Wait STOP! Stay with me for a second.
Continue reading “MY ANXIETY IS MAKING ME A TERRIBLE PARENT – am I in the wrong career?”
Happy New Year to all my readers. Have you made your resolutions?
New Year – the time of resolutions. A happy, hopeful time where everyone is brimming with enthusiasm for all that they’re going to conquer in this brand new year.
There’s something magical about New Year’s Day – not in reality, of course. It’s really just another day, just the same as the one before; except it isn’t.
Like many people at this time of year, I’ve had resolutions on my mind. To tell you the truth, I always have a pile of resolutions bouncing around in my brain. I’ve always got a multitude of ‘self-improvement’ tasks that I’m ‘working’ on or am on the verge of implementing.
And, frankly, this year between the chronic pain that I just can’t seem to conquer and trying to hold my life together, I just don’t have the energy for it.
Continue reading “Why I’m NOT Making New Year’s Resolutions This Year + My 5 New Year’s NON-Resolutions”
Over the course of my life, I’ve been counselled numerous times, by friends, family and mental health professionals, that I need to change the way I think. I need to be more positive.
The advice is often couched in simple platitudes: relax, don’t worry, everything’s going to be okay; but, what they’re really saying is that I need to change my negative thoughts. Continue reading “POSITIVE THINKING: I’m positive I’m working on it. 5 Steps to Positive Thoughts.”
Recently, I got out biked by a guy who was riding a cargo bike with two kids on the back. It turned out to be a lesson in perspective.
And it got me questioning my fitness, something I pride myself on, and it got me questioning the success of my crusade to be a minimal car use family. I mean, I’ve been focusing a lot of energy lately on getting us back out on our bikes and out of our van. And, I was feeling pretty proud of myself. But this guy, he had me beat.
Not only was he faster than me, when I was solo and he definitely wasn’t, but there was also no way I would’ve biked up that hill with my kids in tow – I would’ve gone around the longer, flatter way.
Was I just fooling myself? Was it time to throw in the towel and stop pretending that I was actually accomplishing anything or had any right to give advice?
Continue reading “Whenever I get to thinking I’m doing amazing, I find someone doing it better: A LESSON IN PERSPECTIVE.”
As parents today, we are inundated with messages about how we should be parenting our children. We are told about all the things that our children need to be doing to get the best start in life. There’s so much information and so many opportunities that it’s overwhelming. It’s easy to get caught in the trap of parental aspirations.
Not in my opinion.
Maybe dreaming big for our kids isn’t actually our job as parents…
But if having aspirations for our children to conquer the world isn’t our job, what is?
Continue reading “I DON’T HAVE ASPIRATIONS FOR MY KIDS & NEITHER SHOULD YOU: a reminder of what a parent’s job really is.”
If you’ve been reading along with me, you already know that I’ve been obsessed with getting off the beaten path, out of the overcrowded campsites, and back into the serenity of the backcountry with my six-year old twins. If you haven’t been following along, you can read about our inaugural backpacking trip here and how we prepared here.
I’ve been really proud about finally getting my twins out on the trail with their backpacks on their backs and actually backpacking.
But let’s get real for a moment. From the parking lot to the far end of Mystic Beach, where we pitched our tent, is a grand total of 2.3km (1.5 miles for those of you who don’t do metric). Does that even count? Or is that more like a gentle stroll around the block with the dog?
Did we actually accomplish anything noteworthy?
Continue reading “Was it really backpacking if it was only 2 km?”
It can be easy to focus only on all of the negative things when you’re in pain. And, I have to admit that my last two chronic pain posts were pretty heavy. I guess they reflected where I was at in the moment that I wrote them. I have to admit I’d been seized by a particularly tenacious pain flare, and I was feeling pretty grim with a side of hopeless.
Read about the 12 Negative Things My Chronic Pain Makes Me Feel.
I’ve come out of it now, and I thought the time was right to do something a little more positive.
I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t fool anybody if I tried to pretend that having a chronic condition is all sugar and spice. But, that being said, it doesn’t mean that I can’t find some positives, if I take the time to look – the silver lining per se.
Continue reading “8 Positive Things I Feel Despite My Chronic Pain”
I’m not going to lie; I didn’t want to write this post. I hesitated for a significant amount of time, before I finally made myself sit down and write it.
There are lots of reasons why I didn’t want to write it.
Part of it was that I didn’t just want to jump on the latest bandwagon. But then, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. The whole point of the #MeToo movement is to start a conversation.
It was a bandwagon I SHOULD be jumping on. Because, of course, that’s how change happens – when everyone steps out of their comfort zone and says enough is enough. Continue reading “#MeToo – A movement I can (reluctantly) join”