SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE – The Secrets to Keeping a Marriage Strong

What are the secrets to a successful marriage?  Why do some couples live in wedded “bliss” and others crash and burn?

Why do some couples live in wedded “bliss” and others crash and burn? Click To Tweet

With Valentine’s Day only a few days away, for good or bad, it’s natural for our attention to start turning to love and our relationships.  And being a romantic at heart, I’m getting excited.   However, despite all the build-up and hype, I think it’s good to talk about the fact that, even though we shouldn’t need a special day to remind us to check in with our relationships, many of us find ourselves scrambling to find the perfect way to show our love on the day of love!

And if you’re married, especially if it’s been for a long time, it can be really challenging to come up with a unique and special way to express your love for your spouse.  How are you going to show your spouse how much they mean to you?

But is finding the perfect present on Valentine’s Day critical to having a successful marriage?

It certainly feels like it sometimes.

Like every other holiday, our society is amazing at pouring on the guilt.  Everywhere you turn there are messages about what you MUST do or more importantly buy to ensure that your marriage will be strong and stand the test of time.

But, I’ll let you in on a little secret: your gift doesn’t really matter.

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MY ANXIETY IS MAKING ME A TERRIBLE PARENT – am I in the wrong career?

First off, I want to make it very clear that I’m by NO means making the suggestion that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, shouldn’t be parents.  Nor am I saying that people with anxiety disorders, or other types of mental illness, don’t do a great job of being parents – because that would be blatantly false.

I’m not even saying that I’m a terrible parent.  I love my children, and I think that I’m doing a good job raising them to be independent, polite, tolerant, and well-rounded individuals.

Just to brag a bit, I actually often get complimented on my children’s behavior when we are at restaurants.  Thumbs up to me.

What I’m saying is my anxiety makes me a terrible candidate for this parenting job that I’ve managed to get myself hired for.  It’s not that I don’t have the skills to do the job.  It’s just that my anxiety disorder makes my role as a parent more difficult, than if I was the same person just minus my anxious tendencies.

Wait STOP! Stay with me for a second.

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My Christmas Wish – peace, forgiveness and maybe a diagnosis

Merry Christmas to all my readers.  I hope you are enjoying the holiday times whatever your beliefs are and whichever holidays you celebrate.  I’d like to take a moment and share my Christmas wish with you.

Leading up to Christmas, my children have been fervently hoping that they’ll lose their two front teeth.  Several of their classmates have, and my twins desperately want to be able to sing “All I want for Christmas is my Two Front Teeth.”

I also have holiday wishes, but they look a little different then my children’s Click To Tweet.

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#MeToo – A movement I can (reluctantly) join

I’m not going to lie; I didn’t want to write this post.  I hesitated for a significant amount of time, before I finally made myself sit down and write it.

There are lots of reasons why I didn’t want to write it.

Part of it was that I didn’t just want to jump on the latest bandwagon.  But then, I couldn’t stop thinking about it.  The whole point of the #MeToo movement is to start a conversation.

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WHEN SOMEONE YOU CARE ABOUT HAS CHRONIC PAIN – 10 ways to show your support

I know that my chronic pain isn’t just tough for me; it’s also difficult for the people who care about me.

When you don’t really understand what a person is going through, it can be hard to know what to do or say.  It’s kind of like when someone you care about loses someone they love – you just don’t know what to say.

You might be attempted to just avoid me – it’s easier that way.  But, I’d like to appeal to the empathic side of you and ask that you seek me out instead.  My illness is already very isolating, and I would love your company.

Here are some tips to help you show your support when I’m in pain:

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