Hello and welcome to This Is All Going On; my imperfectly perfect place to share my journey through the chaos of my life.
WHAT IS This Is All Going On ?
I have a lot going on in my life – let’s be honest we all do. And sometimes, I lose sight of what really matters. Things get messy. Things get missed. Things go wrong.
A means to for me to sort through and process some of the chaos
This Is All Going On is a means for me to sort through and process some of that chaos.
Within the sphere of my own experience, I’ve learned a few thing – some the hard way. This is a place for me to share my knowledge/musings with you. It helps me process my chaos and hopefully gives you some ideas for how to tame your chaos. Whichever particular brand of chaos you have – whether it’s kids or health concerns or something completely different.
But, I certainly don’t have it all together. I don’t ever want to pretend that I do. So the experiences I share won’t be wrapped up in a perfect looking package, where I pretend that everything is always roses – I’m fallible, and I will share the mistakes along with the triumphs.
A place to share my experience with the messiness of life
This Is All Going On is a place for me to share my experience with the messiness of life. I’m a perfectionist at heart, and I have to fight it every day, remind myself that it’s okay for things to be just good enough – and it’s a lot more fun when things aren’t so serious.
The thing is, I’m not perfect and that’s okay; because my imperfections are just another part of me.
I know philosophical, right?
Seriously though, I believe it’s important to acknowledge that I don’t have it all together, but in a light-hearted and fun way. You know, acknowledge the perfection in my imperfection.
So, if you ever find yourself thinking, “Wow, she really has it all together,” don’t worry, it’s all an illusion. Stick around for a bit and the cleverly disguised train-wreck of my life will come clear.
My mom once said that I have my own way of doing things, and it’s always the hard way. While it’s true things never quite seem to go along with my carefully laid plans – think having a baby at 18 instead of going to Military College to become a helicopter pilot – it’s not my intention to do things the hard way.
It just sort of happens sometimes.
Please come and share my journey…
WHO AM I?
My name is Nicole, and I’m many things. I have many roles that I fill both in my home life and my work life.
I am a mother of three and the wife of my soulmate (although it isn’t all smooth sailing as one might imagine, as we are both too stubborn for that).
I have young TWINS. I have a married son. I have a daughter-in-law that I adore.
I am a daughter, sister and an aunt.
I write. I crochet. I knit. I sew. I run. I bike. I swim (Triathlon anyone?). I hike. I camp. I volunteer.
I have survival training, first aid training, and search and rescue training.
I love the water. The ocean is my favourite, but a lake or river will do.
I have CHRONIC PAIN – sometimes, I can barely get out of bed.
I have an anxiety disorder.
My life is chaotic. It’s an amazing life, but sometimes the chaos overwhelms me. Sometimes, I feel myself getting lost in the needs of my family and the pain that I fight every day.
This Is All Going On is a way to express myself as I try to find myself in the chaos of my life and hold onto a piece of what is truly me apart from my roles of mother and wife and my ever-present pain.
WHY AM I BLOGGING?
FOR ME, this blog is about moving through this chaotic adventure that is my life. It’s an exploration of how nothing comes easily and nothing is particularly graceful. It’s about remembering to enjoy my experiences for what they are and not get caught up in regrets about what they are not.
Plus maybe, just maybe, improving my writing as I go.
FOR YOU, This Is All Going On is about sharing my experiences, musings, and knowledge in the hopes that it might just give you the encouragement or information you need to make your next move – whatever that is.
AT ITS CORE:
This Is All Going On is a straight up imparting of my ‘wisdom’. Some may view the philosophy of This Is All Going On as ‘negative,’ and that sharing the imperfect way that my life is unfolding could in fact be a self-fulfilling prophecy. I, however, believe that by sharing the ways things don’t quite go right, I am acknowledging that I’m a real person:
- I make MISTAKES – lots of them. Some BIG. Some INCONSEQUENTIAL.
- I act inappropriately – not intentionally but it happens.
- I wrestle with inadequacies – real or imagined.
In our digital age, we are bombarded with images of perfection.
One quick look at Pinterest demonstrates exactly what I mean. But it goes beyond the perfectly staged pictures of crafts and DIY that I personally find it impossible to replicate. It permeates how we feel about ourselves and our place in this culture – how we are ‘measuring up’ or more likely NOT ‘measuring up’.
I see this orientation towards perfection in many of the parenting blogs that I read. These blogs are filled with advice and examples about how to nurture our children to their upmost potential, all accompanied by pictures of families in coordinating clothes and idyllic settings. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve learned lots from these blogs, but I sometimes come away with the feeling that I’m failing somehow.
Let’s be honest, I can’t even manage to distribute the school photos in a timely manner never mind managing to organize a photoshoot. I know people who can – but I, for some reason, can’t.
At its core, This Is All Going On’s MESSAGE is simply that it’s okay to be flawed and to let other people see your flaws.
THE NUTS AND BOLTS:
You’re probably thinking that all the above philosophical mumbo jumbo is all fine and good but WHAT IS THIS BLOG ABOUT?
- Parenting Twins (or any young children)
- Staying Active with Twins
- The Logistics of Twins
- Reducing the amount of sugar my children eat
- Parenting challenges
- Parenting an adult child
- Chronic Pain
- Finding/Nurturing Myself
- Staying Active with Chronic Pain
- Sugar ‘Addiction’
- Finding Adventure
- Keeping Sight of Who I Am Outside of my Role as a Mother and Wife
- Improving my Craft
- Not really a topic, but a reason why I have decided to start writing a blog. I am a writer at heart
- You know, all those things that constantly run through my head
Again, WELCOME to This Is All Going On, and thank-you for sticking with me to the end.
My hope is that you find in This Is All Going On something useful or something that makes you smile. Your comments, stories and experiences are always welcomed.
P.S. I know this ‘bio’ is a bit long winded. It’s another one of my quirks.